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Beliefs are such a subjective experience and they determine so much of our reality. It seems like some people live with their beliefs for a lifetime and they’re like a fortress and other people are able to move in and out of different beliefs and explore for a lifetime.
So first of all, let me say something that is likely going to be shocking, but that’s where we have to start. We’re not meant to live from belief at all and our entire life is nothing but belief.
What is a belief?
We as human beings, we live from beliefs and we’ve never by and large asked ourselves, is it wise? Is it intelligent? Can there be compassion? Can there be anything authentically good in terms of releasing us from psychological limitation inside of a belief?
You know what Stevie Wonder said about beliefs? Don’t you know that famous song when you believe in things that you don’t understand? And it brings up what? Superstition.
So let’s examine this. What is it? Belief. The mind fabricates. That’s first. Beliefs are made by the mind and a belief is made when the mind encounters something that it wants to either get something from or get away from something that seems to be threatening it.
That means that the mind makes an object of something. The belief in God, the belief in Christ, the belief in Moses or Muhammad or whatever one believes in. Why, why do I, why do I believe in this? Do I believe in my heart?
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Do I believe that I’m going to breathe? Do I believe that I have to eat? Does an ego believe that it has to open its wings to soar or are these things that we have our heart, the capacity to love, the wisdom that comes to us from time to time that requires no thinking?
Or are these qualities, including a relationship with whatever one may consider the divine, inherent in our very existence, interwoven so that we have these beliefs that actually separate us from the very thing we say we believe in.Guy Finley
We’re so caught up in oh, beliefs and what do I, what do I believe in and what are my limiting beliefs? And, and we’re swimming around trying to sort through beliefs and what you’ve come along and said is maybe there’s an entirely different place to go.
Maybe it’s not about that.
And so you’re not seeing the forest for the trees. You could spend your lifetime sorting through these beliefs and there’s actually an entirely different place that we can go.
Yeah, I mean, I go outside here in southern Oregon where I live. I live on a little in a little house on a mountain and I walk outside and jerseys old-growth, sugar pine and Towering Oaks and Cedars. I don’t have to believe in the beauty that’s there.
Distinguish between beliefs and experience.
The beliefs actually separate you from your experience.
They are a product of your mind and your mind is going to disconnect you from the actual immersion in the experience. It’s a self consciousness thing.
And in doing so, producing a sense of identity that is intimately connected with the feeling that belief produces. But the feeling that is produced by a belief has really nothing whatsoever to do with the thing itself.
The why is a lie. The feel is real.Guy Finley
At a practical level, if you were to take six truly enlightened men or women, probably not represented by the hierarchy of whatever the religion is that they happen to be the advocate of right, but truly illumined in their religion, you could put these six people in a room together and there would be no discord.
There would be no argument.
There would be no contest between them as to the nature of the divine because they don’t believe in the divine. They don’t believe that God has one face or three faces. They live the experience of what is holy and the nature of what is holy is love.
And love does not separate itself out into what it believes in and what it doesn’t. Love interacts with everything that is involved in it. So we have become a race of beings whose planet is being torn apart because we have become identified with the sensations produced by this inculcation of belief.
By the way, proliferated by groups, religious media, Wall Street, main street, and so on. For the purpose of producing this kind of incredible identification so that you become literally a buyer of the brand regardless how ridiculous it is. They tell you what you must do to support it.
It just makes a on that materialistic or a safe, the commercial side of beliefs in some, some of those folks are just masterful at creating an opportunity, if you will, for us to invest our minds and hearts in their, in their products.
But we don’t want to throw away the baby with the bathwater.
I’ll tell you a quick story to set the stage.
It just happened that I was at the supermarket yesterday and I was standing in line. Because of my own personal practice spiritually I try to place myself where I’m going to be able to learn the most about myself. Long story short, I’m standing in a line behind three people and the person just ahead of me and starting to, you know, people mumble under their breath, you know, why is this taking so long? Oh my God.
You know, then they send the checker for something, all of that business and the poor lady doing the checkout, you can just tell she’s getting more and more nervous and people are getting more and more impatient.
Finally, when I got up to her, I said “Take your time. Don’t rush. Everything’s okay.” And she said, “Thank you so much. I’m in training.”
If we understood that all of us are in training, then we wouldn’t have listened to this, the wish to pounce or punish others because of our belief about who and what they should be and at what level they should be efficient.
There’s narcissism at work.
And, that narcissism is yet another piece of evidence that the beliefs are disconnecting us from what’s actually happening. Yeah. Come on, caught up in, in my own beliefs about what I’ve got to do and a song.
Have you ever gotten upset with somebody because they didn’t understand you? Nah, never. I mean, that’s so common. And yet look at, look at the paradox. I’m upset with you because you don’t understand me. Well, no, the whole problem is that we don’t understand each other.
You don’t understand that my level of understanding includes a very short fuse and I don’t understand that. You’re struggling to realize deeper what you’re talking to me about. So my blaming you is based on a belief that you should be better or clearer, and your resistance to the way I feel is based on the assumption that I should immediately understand your position.
An understanding between two human beings would include the willingness to forbear each other’s manifestation at the moment. Yeah. Understanding that we’re both in training, we’re growing, we’re working to be true or better human beings.
It creates the possibility of something completely new taking place as it’s intended to in our consciousness. But in order for that to happen, we must first have these kinds of insights; to recognize these contradictions that don’t just live in our consciousness, but that actually shape what consciousness manifests so that we live in a world where there’s nowhere even what we call tolerance.
It isn’t tolerance. It’s self righteousness. We’re taught to tolerate people who aren’t like us. What does that really say? You are less than I am, but I’m going to put up with you because that’s what Christ would have me do. That’s what God would have me do. That’s what the government says to do. That’s what I have to do to save my job.
No, I’m not saying to be intolerant.
I’m saying that if I’m a fully working inwardly human being, I’m awake to what you manifest, and if I’m actually present, my ability to see what you stir in me is how I wind up actually manifesting in real-time what Christ said when he said love your enemies.
I’m beginning to understand that everything about my life and your life, is intended to mirror each other for the purpose of higher intelligence, touching a reflection of these movements and then allowing us to change because we see what we see, that my belief is in the way it’s not paving the way.It’s producing pain at the moment.
And that’s authentic tolerance, not belief about tolerance. You see, you’re not encouraging people to be intolerant, but you know it’s probably important to understand that tolerance, tolerance and intolerance within the context of a belief. I’ve got to be tolerant here cause Christ said the tolerance and intolerance are opposite sides of the same counterfeit coin.
The whole reason that we’ve got the word tolerance in our vocabulary now as the belief is because we aren’t present to the actual nature of compassion that already lives in us.
We’re created to be compassionate.
But we’ve lost the ability to be present enough to experience what it’s like to know the pain of another person. So we blame the pain we feel and then find a way to be tolerant so that we can get them out of the way to get rid of our own pain.
We set ourselves up for misery then and then cope with it. It’s not appealing at all.
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A great man that I knew and worked with for 14 years before he died – he used to say to me: The medicine is bitter, but it heals.
Beliefs are not going to heal us. They are what is causing the conflict, not just with others, not just in terms of a planetary experience, but the belief, for instance, that if, if I’m ever going to be a truly a happy person, I’m going to have to have the approval of everyone around me.
And if we can study the mechanism, we can see that the minute I believe that my worth, my value as a human being, depends upon you agreeing to it. Now I’m going to have to go do all the things that compromise me in order to get you in my camp so that you’ll approve me.
So the very pursuit of that belief and to get rid of the feeling of being inadequate puts me under the thumb of everything that compromises me, not completes me, but compromises me.
And that’s the treadmill we’re on. And it seems like even if you think it’s not about other people, setting yourself up for a positive belief inherently raises the question of a negative belief. And so it always keeps them side by side.
If I say to myself and I believe I’m a good and worthwhile person, it raises the question that I might be, or at least the alternative that, I might be a bad and worthless person.